Why Small Steps Beat Big, Drastic Changes

The start of a new year often brings thoughts of fresh starts, big resolutions, and goal setting—like completely overhauling your diet, exercising every day, or changing long-standing habits overnight. While these goals are well-intentioned, drastic changes can feel overwhelming and are often difficult to sustain. Many people find themselves discouraged by February, having abandoned resolutions that seemed “too big” to maintain.

At Tar Heel Human Services, P.C., we encourage a different approach: small, gradual steps toward meaningful change. Mental health and well-being improve over time, and lasting growth often comes from tiny, consistent actions rather than dramatic overhauls.

Why Small Steps Work

More achievable: Tiny goals are realistic and easier to integrate into your daily routine. For example, instead of committing to an hour-long workout every day, set a goal to start with 10 minutes of movement each morning.
Build confidence: Completing small tasks creates momentum and reinforces your belief that change is possible.
Reduce stress and guilt: Gradual change is less likely to trigger feelings of failure or burnout.

Tips for a Healthier Approach to Resolutions

Set one or two focused goals: Narrow your focus to areas that matter most to you rather than trying to “fix everything.”
Practice self-compassion: Change takes time, and setbacks are normal. Celebrate progress, no matter how small.
Seek support: Share your goals with a friend, family member, or therapist who can encourage you, guide you, and hold you accountable.
Track progress: Keep a journal, use an app, or mark a calendar—small wins accumulate into lasting change.
Be flexible: Adjust goals as needed. Life is unpredictable, and your resolutions should support, not stress, you.

TIP: These techniques work any time of year, not just at New Year's!

This year, instead of chasing perfection, give yourself permission to grow slowly and steadily. Mental wellness is a journey, not a sprint, and every small step counts toward a healthier, more balanced life. By focusing on manageable actions and practicing self-compassion, you set yourself up for sustainable success and a year full of meaningful progress. This is a path for goal setting that will last.

Whether you are focused on your personal self-care, creating new routines, or are interested in taking a positive step in your mental health, Tar Heel Human Services is here to help. If you would like to continue your journey with the assistance of friendly and compassionate therapist, book an appointment today. We offer in-person visits at our Beulaville, NC office and virtual appointments to any North Carolina residents.

(Article written by Michelle Tanner, MSW, LCSW)